I don't know what it is like to to an adoptive parent. I'm not sure what it feels like to know my child has another set of parents out there, somewhere, possibly. I have no idea how she felt. All I know is that she encouraged her son to find his birth parents. She wanted him to know where he came from. She wanted him to meet his birth mother, whoever she was. And that is how I met my brother. A gift she gave us that we can never repay her for. I was just 13 years old and I will never, ever forget the moment I learned of his existence. Or the moment I met him. Or the first birthday gift he ever gave me. Or the way his hair was cut. Or the way he looked just like us. Or the hug he gave me. My brother. Who I have known for over half my life now and can't imagine life any other way. 

I do not know what it would be like to encourage your child to have a relationship with his biological family. But for that, I am eternally grateful. In her passing, I realize just what an amazing person she was and what an incredible gift she gave me. So, to Rose, thank you.

Comments

[Heather D]

Beautiful.

[Ric]

Thanks

[LifeAtTheCircus]

This is beautiful. I can't imagine how hard that must have been for her. She truly loved her son in a way I hope I could love my kids if I was in her shoes.

[Laurie McFarland]

Thanks for this. I know my nephew because his family was generous too.

[Lynn]

Wow. What an amazing gift she gave to her son and to your family. How humbling.